That's what I could have said but I held back. When I was at that fantastic age when I lost my virginity, I didn't tell my partner(I was a closet Virgin).

I didn't tell her until at least a year after the fact, long after we had gone our separate ways. I had had a great experience, there was no awkwardness or problems. No horror stories or anything else. My partner was experienced, which was fine with me. However, I was not and I didn't want to screw things up by coming clean as a virgin.

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On the opposite side of the spectrum, I've known several men and women both to openly confess to their virginity, when I knew they were definitely not virgins. It would seem that a virginal status has almost a quadra-polar popularity, amongs people that

• Don't want to tell that they are when they are,
• Don't want to tell that they are not when they are not,
• Do want to tell that they are when they are, and
• Do want to tell that they are when they are not

Its been a long time since I initially entered into and moved beyond amateur status(I've been married for almost 13 years and have 3 kids. For those of you that only consider pro's to be prostitutes and porn stars . . . well there are still some things I don't want to tell). I don't think about my past virginal status all that much, but I'm curious what other people do or have done in this situation.

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"When you were a virgin, did you tell your future partner that having sex would be a new experience for you?"

Or maybe more to the point, none of us can go back, however knowing what you know now, should you have told your partner, "I am a Virgin, do with me what you will!" or maybe something a little less dramatic.

I'm sure the answer to this question is going to be different for different people. Men and women will probably approach the topic differently. I'm sure that sexuality will play a part as well.

"Would a confessional virgin have a better experience if they tell the truth up front? Would they lose their chance all together?"

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If you were preparing to make love with a person(sometimes referred to as foreplay), and they told you that they were a virgin would that be a good thing or a bad thing?

I grew up in the seventies and eighties at a time shortly before the Surgeon General was fired for recommending educational masturbation instruction(She didn't want any school left behind).

STD's have been a societal issues for thousands of years, and there is a perception that making love with a virgin may be safer. The truth is that it is safer but not a sure fire way to avoid a disease, as we all now know that diseases can be spread from a mother to a baby.

I've never been a great teacher or mentor or anything and maybe as a result I've always preferred my partners to be rather . . . experienced and maybe a little creative.

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Yet many older men and a few grade school teachers are interested in younger less experienced partners. Is this because these people are more interested in youthful looks or do they enjoy a little youthful eagerness and ignorance?

I'm sure a part of the issue is that some people just want to start over, take Demi Moore. She opted for a younger man, some might even say a boy toy. Does she just like them young or was she looking to start with a partner that she might be able to mold an influence into the more perfect partner? Say what you will about Bruce Willis, but I doubt that he's much of a push over.

So what do you think?

• Should Virgin's confess up front?
• Do they have an obligation to forwarn their partner?
• What would you do if you were walking around in the shoes of a virgin again?

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